Working Back From Discouragement – Perfectionism, Limitations


In early May, I posted how I was dealing with a major case of discouragement about most everything in my life.

Ya’ll gave me some great comments, which I copied into my notebook and added more of my own.  I’m still working through execution on them, but here’s what you told me and where I’m at for now.  In this post and the next three, I’ll be responding to your wonderful comments and clarifying for myself the changes I have or need to be making.

Don’t have such high expectations and be so perfectionistic.  Gretchen Rubin says this all the time – don’t let perfect be the enemy of good.  It’s easy to have high expectations when I’m rested and happy, but it does me no good.  I can get a lot more done and enjoy it more if I lower my bar.  It doesn’t help that I’m naturally that way and I work in a field that expects perfect.

As I mulled this one over, I realized that I also wasn’t laughing enough.  I’ve been way too serious about too many things, including my blog.  When I catch myself doing it, I try to relax my frowny face into something more light hearted and to remind myself that it’s okay to laugh and have a sense of humor.

No one can do everything, and certainly not all of the time. Thank you Kitty.  You’ve told me that before (as has Patti, Kate, Christine, Beth and others) and I keep forgetting it.  That’s part of why I made a list from your comments and I keep looking it over.  As much as I may think I want to do something, there are limitations to my time and energy.

I’d written over at A Daily Life about making time to do anything in life.  I described how I gave up my personal journals and reading to blog.  One of the big challenges recently is that I no longer want to give those things up, especially the reading.  The weather has been so nice up until a few days ago and one of my pleasures is to sit on the deck after work and read well past sunset.  So I’ve been doing it.  But by the time I come in, it’s late and I’m too tired to want to write.  Now that it’s gotten so hot and humid, I feel like doing a whole lot more things inside.

Having contradictory goals is not helping this either, something I’d commented on in January.  This issue has intensified as I’ve been working on my diet and exercise, wandering on the weekends with my favorite boy toy, and tackling projects such as my garden and the essay class I took earlier this year.  I keep reminding myself that I can’t do it all and that’s okay too.

This is getting long enough.  My next post will share my thoughts on experimenting as well as the impact my job has on my blog.

The sunflowers in my garden are finally blooming.  I deliberately choose plants that are loaded with pollen to help attract bees, which must be working as my watermelon vines are full of baby watermelons.  I’ve used part of the picture below as my new header this month.

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